I am sitting here at work. I’ve done my entire to do list. I’ve spent 1 1/2 hours on my professional development (a marketing course). and I still have over 2hours to be here. I am getting a nice migraine going, so I might leave early. Time will tell.

I guess I could try to find someone to talk to, but that really doesn’t appeal to me. I like my peace and quiet, I just need something to be doing to keep my demons occupied so they don’t wreak havoc in my mind. I try not to talk to my demons. They get too conceited and think that they control the whole show, not me. As to talking to a coworker, there really isn’t anyone to talk to. I do have coworkers, but they are far from me within the building, and I can’t leave my desk. And they can’t leave their’s. So, that is not an option.

Have you ever noticed that sometimes your demons are the only ones who seem to understand you? They know you better than anyone else ever did or will. They are your constant companions, good times and bad. Sometimes they come up with ways to comfort me. Of course, their ideas will cause problems (spending or eating too much to fill the emptiness). But, they are the ones always there for me to debate my actions. Generally, when they are in favor of something, I know it’s something that I probably shouldn’t do. They are helpful in that way, whether they mean to be or not. Comforting to know them that well and be able to depend on them, even if they don’t really want to help.

Sometimes late at night, my demons will listen to my doubts and fears that I can’t express to anyone else. These are the times they are actually not judgemental. They become my valued friends at those times. They wrap around me like carmel on an apple. Warm. Soft. Sweet. They let me talk it all out. I try to use wise mind and pros and cons at those times. Try not to punish myself or consider myself harshly. My own thoughts can wound me far more than my demons do. It’s like I’m being dragged through a fencerow made of blackberry bushes and barbed wire. The thorns grasping chunks of my skin and leaving bloody furrows behind, where the bad thoughts and memories take root and grow so well. My demons don’t hurt me like that. I’ve learned to appreciate them and tolerate them.

So, here I sit at my desk. Only my demons for company. At the moment, they are campaigning for a run to the vending machine or a splurge on Etsy. Neither would be good for me, but neither would hurt. My mind on the other hand is telling me that I am useless and unwanted and how could anyone want to have anything to do with a damaged old woman like me. So, I need to quiet all the demons and my mind. Or is my mind the head demon? Does it have the little demons distract me while it works on doing the real damage? I think this is the case. That means I need to stop listening to Lorie Ann (that’s my name for my really mean, cruel self talk). To get her quiet and to move on to a better place, I am writing this to get her out of my head. I find that writing gives me relief. The words flow out of my mind. Onto the paper. Leaving my mind clean and clear. I can evaluate and dispute what my mind has been telling me. The writing gives me power over the self hatred and loathing. Once I have written in out, I can let it go.

For today, I won’t listen to my demons or Lorie Ann. I won’t let myself hurt myself. I am stronger and better than that. So are you.